Hypnotherapy for Anger

From Reaction To Response - Calm, Control & Connection

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom

Viktor E. Frankl

Introduction
What is Anger?

Anger is often misunderstood as a purely negative emotion, yet it is a natural and essential response that helps protect boundaries, assert needs, and signal when something important has been compromised. When expressed in a healthy way, anger can be a powerful force for self-protection and change. As Dr. Gabor Maté explains, “Healthy anger is an empowering and boundary-defending force, but suppressed or misdirected anger can be destructive both to ourselves and others.”

If anger is unhealthy or unresolved—often rooted in unprocessed trauma or unmet emotional needs—it can manifest in harmful and self-sabotaging patterns, gradually eroding relationships, self-esteem, and physical well-being.

Repressed, inbalanced, anger may surface in covert ways, such as chronic stress, self -sabotage, anxiety, or depression, creating a lingering sense of frustration and emotional discomfort. Paradoxically, it can also explode unpredictably, with disproportionate rage turning minor irritations into major conflicts. Left unchecked, cycles of suppression and outbursts can lead to guilt, shame, emotional distress and destruction further reinforcing feelings of powerlessness, disconnection and defeat.

What Are The Common Signs Of Anger? 

Emotional

Anger is often a response to perceived injustice, unmet needs, or emotional pain, but when unresolved, it can become a habitual state of heightened reactivity. Individuals experiencing chronic anger may have persistent frustration, resentment, or irritability, even in situations that do not warrant such intense emotions. Many struggle with intrusive thoughts about past grievances or perceived wrongs, replaying conflicts in their minds. Anger can also be a protective mechanism, masking deeper emotions such as sadness, fear, or shame, making it difficult to identify the true underlying issue. Some may feel a sense of power or control when expressing anger, while others experience guilt or regret afterward, leading to emotional distress.

Behavioural

Anger can manifest in explosive outbursts, where emotions are expressed through yelling, aggression, or impulsive actions. Others may experience passive-aggressive behaviours, such as sarcasm, withdrawal, or subtle hostility. Difficulty in communicating needs effectively can lead to conflicts in relationships, as anger may overshadow the ability to listen, compromise, or express emotions constructively. Some individuals may hold onto grudges or find themselves frequently engaging in arguments, unable to let go of perceived wrongs. In other cases, anger is internalised, leading to self-blame, silent resentment, or avoidance of situations that might provoke confrontation.

Physical

Anger activates the fight-or-flight response, causing an immediate increase in heart rate, muscle tension, and rapid breathing. Some people experience headaches, chest tightness, digestive discomfort, or jaw clenching (often leading to TMJ issues) due to chronic tension. Anger can also lead to shaking, sweating, dizziness, or a surge of adrenaline, making it difficult to calm down after an emotional trigger. In cases of suppressed anger, individuals may experience fatigue, exhaustion, or unexplained body aches, as the body holds onto stress without an outlet for release.

Long term health impact

Unresolved or chronic anger can take a significant toll on overall well-being. Long-term stress-related conditions such as high blood pressure, cardiovascular disease, and weakened immune function are common. Emotionally, anger may contribute to depression, anxiety, or a general sense of emotional instability, particularly when accompanied by guilt or regret. Over time, anger can erode self-esteem, relationships, and social connections, leading to increased isolation and difficulty maintaining healthy interactions. Neurologically, chronic anger rewires the brain for heightened reactivity, making it harder to regulate emotions and increasing susceptibility to impulsivity, frustration, and emotional outbursts.

What Are Common Causes Of Anger?

Anger often arises from deeper, unresolved issues in the unconscious mind. While it can signal unmet needs or boundary violations, chronic or unmanaged anger typically reflects ingrained patterns and past experiences. Key contributors include:

  • Suppressed Emotions: Anger often masks deeper feelings such as sadness, fear, or guilt. Suppressing these emotions can lead to disproportionate outbursts.

  • Unmet Needs & Violated Boundaries: Anger can result when fundamental needs—like respect, safety, or validation—are unmet, or boundaries are ignored.

  • Trauma: Past trauma can leave a lasting imprint, with anger acting as a defence against vulnerability or helplessness.

  • Habitual Reactivity: Over time, the brain may condition itself to default to anger in response to stress or perceived criticism.

  • Nervous System Overload: Chronic stress can keep the nervous system in a heightened state, making small triggers feel overwhelming.

  • Shame or Low Self-Esteem: Internalised shame or self-doubt often manifests as outward anger, especially when criticism or failure is perceived as a threat.

  • Environmental Stressors: Ongoing pressures such as work demands, financial strain, or relationship conflict can exhaust emotional resources, amplifying irritability.

Benefits
Why Does Hypnotherapy Help With Anger?

Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool for managing anger because it works directly with the unconscious mind, where pain emotional patterns and automatic responses are stored. Unlike traditional talk therapy, which primarily engages the conscious, rational brain, hypnosis helps access and reprocess the underlying emotions, trauma, and triggers that fuel anger at a subconscious level.

Hypnosis can regulate the nervous system by shifting brain activity away from the reactive limbic system and toward the prefrontal cortex, which governs self-control and rational decision-making. This allows individuals to remain calmer under stress, regain emotional balance, and reduce impulsive reactions.

Additionally, hypnotherapy can reframe thought patterns, replacing destructive anger responses with healthier coping mechanisms, and teaching the mind to respond rather than react. By rewiring these deep-seated patterns, hypnotherapy not only helps reduce the intensity and frequency of outbursts but also fosters a greater sense of emotional resilience, self-awareness, and constructive communication.

 

 Approach
How does Integrated Hypnotherapy work? 

 

Blocked by past?

Release

Stuck & looping in present?

Restore

Afraid of future?

Renew

The Process

Free Consultation

An opportunity for you to  share your challenge and desired outcome. I address your questions and explain how hypnotherapy can support you.

BESPOKE PACKAGAES

I recommend a package tailored your requirements   whilst remaining responsive to what may naturally arise throughout the process. 

HypNOTHERAPY

Appointments are one hour starting weekly, followed by longer intervals to observe progress pinpoint areas requiring further attention.

TAILORED SUPPORT 

I provide email support between appointments and a personalised hypnotherapy recording at the end to reinforce progress.

Client Testimonials

  • “It’s like therapy on speed. It has changed the way I view absolutely everything in my life.”

    —R

    Feeling Worthless

  • "Lucy managed to untangle the disoriented pangs of emotions within me. She set out to make sense of my madness and very fluidly, enabled me to start breaking down the barriers in my mind that had accumulated through years of unconscious conditioning.”

    —M

    Anxiety

  • "It feels like a deep cleanse - like dirt washing off in the shower.An un-numbing, a softening."

    —F

    Complex Trauma

  • “You made me realise some things that have blocked me for my entire existence.”

    —Caterina Occhio

    Founder of SeeMe, Sustainability Advisor, Board Member WFTO organisation

  • “A unique mix of professionalism and gentleness. Lucy helped me overcome a major trauma in finding a friend who had hung himself. She somehow helped me confront the experience and distance me from it going into the future. I am so grateful.”

    —M

    Trauma

  • “A beautiful way. Immediate results without a shred of judgement.”

    —A

    Unable to Express Creativity

  • "The whole subconsciousness exploration has done for more for me than talk therapy ever could."

    —T

    Depression

  • “It was so beautiful to journey through my subconscious. The work has brought me back home to me.”

    —Jeanne De Kroon

    Founder of Zazi Vintage

  • “Lucy’'s listening skills, flexibility and presence means that each session has felt tailored to exactly what I needed at the time. She has supported me in rebuilding my sense of self."

    —N

    Self Hatred

 FAQs

  • Deep, therapeutic transformation
    Hypnotherapy is therapy conducted in a hypnotic state, a natural and heightened form of relaxed, focused attention. This state allows the mind to bypass the critical, analytical filter of the conscious brain, accessing deeper emotional and sensory experiences stored in the unconscious. In this state, cognitive flexibility is enhanced, making it possible to explore, reframe, and resolve issues without judgment or resistance. Hypnotherapy creates a safe environment to unlock patterns and beliefs that may have been formed as protective responses to past experiences.

  • A natural state of focused awareness
    Hypnosis is a state of relaxed yet focused absorption, where the mind becomes more receptive to changes it might normally resist. It occurs naturally in everyday life, such as when you’re absorbed in a book, daydreaming, or lost in thought. Hypnosis works by shifting the brain from its usual conscious, analytical processing into a state of focused receptivity.

    “Hypnosis is roused, attentive, focal concentration with a relative restriction of conscious awareness. It’s like looking through a telephoto lens—you see in great detail but are less aware of your surroundings.”
    – Dr. David Spiegel, MD

  • A wide range of challenges and goals 

    Hypnotherapy can address mental, emotional, and physical challenges, as well as enhance performance. Common issues include:

    Addiction, abuse, anger, anxiety, burnout, creative blocks, lack of confidence, depression, fear, grief, heartbreak, insomnia, low self-esteem, OCD, pain, performance enhancement, phobias, PTSD, self-sabotage, self-doubt, shame, stress, and trauma.

  • Proven to be more effective than talk therapy
    “    Trauma is not what happens to us, but what happens inside us as a result of what happened to us.” – Gabor Maté

    Trauma imprints itself on the mind and body, fragmenting memories and disrupting emotional regulation. These unprocessed imprints often manifest as hypervigilance, anxiety, depression, insomnia, anger, despair, shame, and a profound sense of loss or lack of control.

    Hypnotherapy bypasses the analytical mind to engage the unconscious, where these fragmented memories are stored. In a relaxed, focused state, clients can safely process their trauma, so that the system can recognise that  danger has passed and regain a sense of control and agency.

    As Dr. Bessel van der Kolk explains, “Hypnosis can induce a state of relative calm from which patients can observe their traumatic experiences without being overwhelmed by them.” This approach enables deep emotional healing and the release of long-held pain.

  • Relaxed and absorbed
    You may wonder, “What if I don’t go deep enough?” or worry, “What if I get stuck?” Hypnosis doesn’t require a deep trance for change—your unconscious mind is engaged even in lighter states, where transformation naturally occurs. Some people go so deep they lose track of time, while others remain lightly aware. You cannot get stuck in hypnosis—you are always in control. 

    As Dr. David Spiegel explains, “Hypnosis is roused, attentive, focal concentration with a relative restriction of conscious awareness. It’s like looking through a telephoto lens—you see in great detail but are less aware of your surroundings.” This focused state enables effective change at any depth.

  • Brainwave shifts and heightened receptivity
    During hypnosis, brainwaves shift from Beta frequency (normal waking consciousness) to Alpha or Theta states, resembling deep relaxation or a daydream. Three key changes occur:

    1. Reduced Salience Network activity: Decreases distractions and intensifies focus.

    2. Increased connectivity between the Executive Control and Salience Networks: Enhances attention and mind-body regulation.

    3. Increased connectivity to the Default Mode Network: Enables freedom to explore new perspectives and self-perceptions.

  • Equal results, wherever you are
    Hypnotherapy works by engaging the unconscious mind, which is not dependent on physical proximity. Once connected to the unconscious, the environment becomes peripheral, making online sessions as effective as in-person ones.  Hypnosis can be induced through conversation alone, and results rely on the mind’s receptivity, not the setting.

  • A natural process
    When conducted by a trained and certified professional, hypnotherapy is safe and natural. You remain fully in control throughout the process and cannot get "stuck" in hypnosis.

  • The evolution of hypnotherapy
    Hypnotherapy has ancient roots but has evolved into a modern therapeutic practice supported by neuroscience and clinical research. Advances in neuroplasticity validate its role in creating lasting neural changes without medication.

    While psychedelics and plant medicines are gaining attention for their ability to induce altered states of consciousness hypnotherapy presents a compelling, drug-free, and more cost-effective alternative for achieving similar transformative mind states.

    “Hypnosis is a psychological technique used in medicine and psychology as a tool to help bring about positive changes to both the mind and the body” University College London Hospitals NHS Foundation Trust

  • Deep beneath the surface
    Jung’s iceberg analogy likens the conscious mind to the small, visible tip of an iceberg above the water—representing our analytical, rational awareness and the aspects of ourselves we control. Below the surface lies the vast, submerged unconscious mind, which holds memories, experiences, dreams, and belief systems. This hidden realm influences approximately 95% of our mental processes, often without our direct awareness. It communicates through metaphor, symbolism, imagination, and emotion. Hypnotherapy works at this deeper level, addressing unconscious patterns to create lasting, automatic change.